Let’s Get Something Straight!

I’ve given you a little insight into what an Alpha is, and we will be talking about it in more detail in some posts to follow. But I also want to tell you what an Alpha IS NOT.

An alpha male is not a dominating prick. He is not one of those bosses that uses his power for his own gain, and crushes everybody else in the process. An Alpha is not that guy who wants to get into a fight with you because you smiled at his girlfriend. An Alpha is not the idiot that drives a Hummer, lives in a house he can’t afford, and tries to sleep with every woman with a pulse and a rack.

Those are not Alpha Men.

Those are little boys with low self-esteem who are trying desperately to feel better about their shallow little lives.

I will even go one step further. An Alpha doesn’t even have to be an extrovert. He doesn’t have to be the life of the party. He doesn’t feel the need to dominate every conversation.

I consider myself an Alpha (wasn’t always one), but I am an introvert.

Does that seem counter-intuitive to you? It isn’t. First let’s define introvert/extrovert. An introvert is someone that recharges his batteries alone (or with his mate at home). An extrovert gets his energy from groups. So when I need to recharge, I spend a quiet evening at home watching a movie, reading a book, playing a board game with my girlfriend. If I was an extrovert, after a hard day at work, I would call my buddies up and go clubbing.

But it doesn’t mean I don’t like to go out, or meet new people, or tell a story to my friends about my latest adventure, or try new things. I love to do all those things, but not everyday. I also love to travel, cook for friends, go Salsa dancing, hit happy hour and a bunch of other things. I am also confident, passionate and really don’t give a crap what most people think of me.

And when I see a woman that I am attracted to, I go up and talk to her. Let me repeat that: I go up and talk to her. I don’t wait for her to give me signal or for her to make the first move. I am the man, I make the first move. And because I am all of those things and like do all those things, women enjoy talking to me.

And if she is not interested, THAT”S HER LOSS, NOT MINE.

Starting to get the picture?